Tuesday, July 21, 2009

You Just Might Find

I love lyrics. Dove loves lyrics. Sometimes the whole song sings to me. Sometimes not any of the lyrics stick except just a few.

I have my thinking time, it is in the shower at night (odd fact #28, I shower at night) and often when I am looking back on the day, things that went well, things that fell apart, my interactions with others, my emotional psyche, I try to sort through it all.

I'm neither a half glass full nor a glass half empty gal. I'm more of a glass should be fuller but hey, it isn't completely empty gal. I tend to compare, dissect, over-think, over-talk, ponder and then forget it all. I can be a walking social faux pas. Wow, I'm getting too deep into my insecurities. Here is what I am trying to get to.

We live in a society where it is easy to get caught up in comparisons. I (maybe you too) can questions myself many times during the day - the way I parent, the way I carry on friendships, the way I treat my husband, they way I keep my house. I compare it to others. I win some, I lose some. I also think we are a want want want generation. Sometimes it is easy to be so focused on what we want that we don't see what we have, or what we need. One lyric that sings in my head all too often is from The Rolling Stones.

You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes you just might find
You get what you need

And I truly think that. Things may not turn out the way I want, they may be a little slow getting to where I want/need them to be, crap stuff may happen. And even though it isn't ideal, the majority of time we do get what we need. Whether we have to look for it, dig deep for something good that springs forth, or just a little glimmer of goodness.

What do you think?


and I might add, when does the Bachelorette: The Men Tell All audience know when to clap so enthusiastically? Why is Dave still such a jerk? And I hope that Jake isn't the next Bachelor, too much for me. I'd choose the break dancer.


Christy said...

I think that song rocks, and so do the lyrics. I think you're awesome. And I shower at night too.

Dove said...

Who was it that killed the Stones in our game a while back? They should be flogged. :)

Okay...I love it. And it's true. It's all about attitude. Sometimes when I'm unhappy I force myself to smile & it seriously makes me feel better. We are all soldiers and have a miraculous way of soldiering through tough things.

And as far as comparisons are concerned...liberate yourself & stop caring. (Could it be that easy...especially in this state?) I think very little about what others think of me. For the most part I am totally comfortable with who I am - faults & all. I see others who are in a constant scramble to compete & it seems like such a waste of our precious living time.

And you were spot on with "Dove loves lyrics." Oh music is fun.

I saw her today at the reception.
In her glass was a bleeding man.
She was practiced at the art of deception,
I could tell by her blood-stained hands .


Mitch and Lacey said...

Thanks for sharing, Mavis. I've had a lot of the same thoughts lately. I wish I could be care-free enough to never worry about what others think or all the things I wish I had (that I probably don't need). I've found that laughter is very helpful when I'm down or too hard on myself. Love the song!

Through the Looking Glass said...

Does the whole world know it's Mavis' birthday today? Shouldn't they?

Respectful pause...

Anyway, I feel like I hardly ever listen to music unless I'm at the gym because it feels like an indulgence. I need to get over that and spend some time mulling over lyrics. And yes, It was I that dissed the Stones. Still not their biggest fan - sorry Dove.

Comparisons are hard, and then you have kids. Suddenly you wonder if your freaking kids are keeping up, and I hate that more than worrying about myself. I'm trying not to care, but it's hard.